Special Topics in Being a Human: A Queer and Tender Guide to Things I've Learned the Hard Way about Caring for People, Including Myself (Paperback)

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I picked up this book out of curiosity and am now convinced that it should be required reading!  What a great graphic guide to all the classic (and not-so-classic) questions we face as humans. From ‘who is correctly loading the dishwasher’ to ‘how to gracefully accept a breakup even when you feel like garbage’ to ‘how to give the kind of help that’s actually helpful’ and ‘how to have the conversations about topics you don’t understand’ you’ll find answers here.  Written by a seasoned advice columnist, you can’t go wrong with this title.  I took a copy home immediately! If you liked Lori Gottlieb’s Maybe You Should Talk to Someone, and Cheryl Strayed’s Tiny Beautiful Things, this is the book for you!


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As an author, educator, and public speaker, S. Bear Bergman has documented his experience as, among other things, a trans parent, with wit and aplomb. He also writes the advice column "Ask Bear," in which he answers crucial questions about how best to make our collective way through the world.

Featuring disarming illustrations by Saul Freedman-Lawson, Special Topics in Being a Human elaborates on "Asking Bear"'s premise: a gentle, witty, and insightful book of practical advice for the modern age. It offers Dad advice and Jewish bubbe wisdom, all filtered through a queer lens, to help you navigate some of the complexities of life--from how to make big decisions or make a good apology, to how to get someone's new name and pronouns right as quickly as possible, to how to gracefully navigate a breakup. With warmth and candor, Special Topics in Being a Human calls out social inequities and injustices in traditional advice-giving, validates your feelings, asks a lot of questions, and tries to help you be your best possible self with kindness, compassion, and humor.

About the Author

S. Bear Bergman is a writer, storyteller, activist, and the founder and publisher of the book press Flamingo Rampant, which makes feminist, culturally diverse children's picture books about LGBT2Q+ kids and families. He writes creative non-fiction for grown-ups, fiction for children, resolutely factual features for various publications, and the advice column "Asking Bear." His books include The Nearest Exit May Be Behind Us and Blood, Marriage, Wine & Glitter, and he was the co-editor along with Kate Bornstein of Gender Outlaws: The Next Generation. Saul Freedman-Lawson is an illustrator, student, zine-maker, babysitter, and educator. He makes art about queerness, transness, Judaism, and childhood. His comic Naturally is forthcoming from Old Growth Press. He likes to draw excitingly gendered people with big noses. This is his first full-length book.
Product Details
ISBN: 9781551528540
ISBN-10: 1551528541
Publisher: Arsenal Pulp Press
Publication Date: October 12th, 2021
Pages: 256
Language: English